Sunday, December 16, 2012

Quotes on Criticism



“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks”
 - Winston Churchill

“A critic is a legless man who teaches other people to run”
― Channing Pollock







“Don't criticize what you can't understand.”
― Bob Dylan

“Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.”
― Winston S. Churchill

“He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help.”
― Abraham Lincoln

People ask you for criticism, but they only want praise.”
― W. Somerset MaughamOf Human Bondage

“How much easier it is to be critical than to be correct.”
― Benjamin Disraeli

“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
― Daisaku Ikeda

“As a matter of fact, we are none of us above criticism; so let us bear with each other's faults.”
― L. Frank BaumThe Marvelous Land of Oz

“Criticism is just someone else’s opinion. Even people who are experts in their fields are sometimes wrong. It is up to you to choose whether to believe some of it, none of it, or all of it. What you think is what counts.”
― Rodolfo Costa

 “Keep yourself so busy with your own refinement that you have little time, energy, or need to criticize others.”
― Anonymous      

Saturday, December 8, 2012

LITTLE THINGS ARE NOT ALWAYS LITTLE THINGS



 
For many people small bits of work are a source of boredom. They consider small things to be negligible and not worthy of attention. Paying attention to small things hurts their idea of dignity.  They want to do great things or exciting things. But small things appear insignificant only to the people who cannot see the real potential in the small things. 

Not all little things are little. Many little things can have big results – a small idea can produce a profitable business, a small seed holds potential of a big tree, a small kindness can begin a long friendship and a wise word can change a life’s direction. Nothing good that is said or done is inconsequential. Small things should not be disparaged; they may hold vast potential.  Let us remember that even a thousand mile journey starts with a single step.  All big triumphs are a culmination of many small efforts.

At the same time little things can have big, unintended and unwanted repercussions as well. Most of us are not undone by big things. Those are more easily recognized and readily avoided. Small things are often your undoing – the road not taken, the overlooked opportunity, the unnoticeable omission or the little temptation. There are many tender moments that are spoiled by intention or lack of attention – an achievement not celebrated, an anniversary forgotten, a thank you unspoken, a kindness unappreciated, a person not valued, and many similar opportunities for good that are overlooked. Such things happen every day in businesses, families, marriages, and personal relationships when the smallest things – someone’s countenance, tone of voice, body language, attitude, words, or even their silence – can assist or resist progress, build or dampen enthusiasm, and develop or disparage an idea.

Amiel Henri Frederic said, “What we call little things are merely the causes of great things; they are the beginning, the embryo, and it is the point of departure which, generally speaking, decides the whole future of an existence. One single black speck may be the beginning of gangrene, of a storm, of a revolution.”

Swami Vivekananda said, “If you really want to judge the character of a man, look not at his great performances. Every fool may become a hero at one time or another. Watch a man do his most common actions; those are indeed the things which will tell you the real character of a great man. Great occasions rouse even the lowest of human beings to some kind of greatness, but he alone is the really great man whose character is great always, the same wherever he is.”

 Benjamin Franklin said, "For want of a nail the shoe was lost; for want of a shoe the horse was lost; and for want of a horse the rider was lost; being overtaken and slain by the enemy, all for the want of care about a horseshoe nail." There is an old saying, "Men trip not on mountains, they stumble on stones." 

 Every enterprise begins small, appearing insignificant at its early stage except to those who see potential others do not. The Bible advises, “Do not despise these small beginnings for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin.”(Zechariah 4:10).

We have found in our times that the most powerful force is the splitting of the smallest thing. In the splitting of the atom a succession of explosions can be set off to cause the biggest explosion the world has ever known. This has taught us that the power is not in the big but in the little.  If a task is worth doing, it is worth doing right. If it is not worth doing well, it is not worth doing. If something needs to be done, it is important. If it is worthy of our attention, it is worthy of our best efforts.

So do not measure a task by its size. Just do what there is to do. Greatness is often wrapped in simplicity. A person who is unwilling to do the little will not have the opportunity to do the big. A person who has not done well the little is not prepared or qualified to do the big. Do not weigh a task. If it is before you, do it and do it well.  The only way to excel is to do the little things with great enthusiasm. Everyone does the big things. They are the things that challenge each of us. Consequently, the difference between success and failure must be in our attention towards little things. Real achievers have found that "little drops of water make the mighty ocean and little grains of sand make the pleasant land."

-        -  N.GANESHAN



Sunday, November 11, 2012

MIND’S ROLE IN HEALTH


A growing number of researches demonstrate that the mind and body are closely intertwined. Our attitudes, thoughts, beliefs and emotions play a significant role in our health and well-being.  Let us see three interesting researches done on the subject.

Dr Bruno Klopfer of the University of California was treating a man named Wright who had advanced cancer of the lymph nodes in 1957. All standard treatments had been exhausted, and Wright appeared to have little time left. His neck, armpits, chest, abdomen, and groin were filled with tumors in the size of oranges, and his spleen and liver were so enlarged that two quarts of milky fluid had to be drained out of his chest every day.

But Wright did not want to die. He had heard about an exciting new drug called Krebiozen and he was confident that a new anticancer drug called Krebiozen would cure him. He begged his doctor to let him try it. At first his doctor refused because the drug was only being tried on people with a life expectancy of at least three months. But Wright was adamant.  His doctor finally gave in. He gave Wright an injection of Krebiozen on a Friday, but in his heart of hearts he did not expect Wright to last the weekend. Then the doctor went home.

To his surprise, on the following Monday, he found Wright out of bed and walking around. Klopfer reported that his tumors had "melted like snowballs on a hot stove" and were half their original size. This was a far more rapid decrease in size than even the strongest X-ray treatments could have accomplished.

Ten days after Wright's first Krebiozen treatment, he left the hospital and was, as far as his doctors could tell, cancer free. When he had entered the hospital, he had needed an oxygen mask to breathe, but when he left he was well enough to fly his own plane at 12,000 feet with no discomfort.

Wright remained well for about two months, but then articles began to appear asserting that Krebiozen actually had no effect on cancer of the lymph nodes.  Wright, who has rigidly logical and scientific in his thinking, became very depressed. He suffered a relapse, and was readmitted to the hospital. This time his physician decided to try an experiment.

He told Wright that Krebiozen was every bit as effective as it had seemed, but that some of the initial supplies of the drug had deteriorated during shipping. He explained, however, that he had a new highly concentrated version of the drug and could treat Wright with this. Of course, the physician did not have a new version of the drug and intended to inject Wright with plain water. To create the proper atmosphere he even went through an elaborate procedure before injecting Wright with the placebo.

Again the results were dramatic. Tumor masses melted, chest fluid vanished, and Wright was quickly back on his feet and feeling great. He remained symptom-free for another two months, but then the American Medical Association announced that a nationwide study of Krebiozen had found the drug worthless in the treatment of cancer.  This time Wright's faith was completely altered. His cancer blossomed anew and he died two days later.

Studies in psycho-neuro-immunology (the mind-body connection) actually show that our beliefs even have the capacity to override the biochemical function of a drug.  Dr. Henry Beecher of Harvard University has done extensive research on this.  One such experiment involved 100 medical students. The students were given one of two pills.  Some received a red pill – which they were told was a super stimulant, while others received a blue pill – which they were told was a super tranquilizer.  What they didn’t know is that the contents of the pills were reversed.  The blue pill was the stimulant, and the red pill was a downer. Half the students developed physical reactions that were in line with what the students  expected to happen.  Meaning, if they took the red pill, and was told it was a super stimulant, it did exactly that – stimulate.  BUT what the pill actually contained was chemicals to SUPPRESS and TRANQUILIZE!!!  Their physical and physiological reaction to the drug was exactly OPPOSITE of what the drug should have done.

It must be noted  that these students were NOT given PLACEBOS.  They were given an actual DRUG!  A placebo is a harmless pill, usually a sugar pill that has no therapeutic effect, used as a control in testing new drugs.  Its effectiveness is 30% or greater – that is higher than some drugs that are put on the market!

Dr. Henry Beecher stated that a drug’s effectiveness “is a direct result of NOT ONLY the chemical properties of the drug, but also the patients’ belief in the usefulness and effectiveness of the drug.”

Renowned physician Deepak Chopra reported the case of a 63 year old woman who was hospitalized with jaundice, thought to be the result of gallstones. During surgery, it was discovered that the patient did not have gallstones but a severe gallbladder cancer which was considered inoperable. While the patient was recovering from surgery, her daughter asked that her mother not be informed of the true diagnosis. Dr. Chopra obliged and instead told the patient that they had removed the gallstones, believing that she would only live a few more months. Eight months later when the patient returned for a checkup, she appeared healthy and there was no clinical evidence of cancer. On one of her later visits she said, “Doctor, when you admitted me to the hospital three years ago with jaundice, I was sure I had cancer. I was so relieved when you operated and found gallstones that I made up my mind never to be sick again” (Chopra, D. (1991). Creating  health p. 71). 

In our haste to find a miracle cure for diseases, we often overlook one of the most powerful treatments for any disease – the human mind.  All three cases cited above illustrate the critical role of psychological factors in physiological health.  The mechanisms underlying the results are still shrouded in mystery but there is no denying the fact that these effects are real. 

Deepak Chopra says in his “Ageless Body and Timeless Mind”, “Our cells are constantly eavesdropping on our thoughts and being changed by them. Because the mind influences every cell in the body, human ageing is fluid and changeable; it can speed up, slow down, stop for a time and even reverse itself”. Studies have found that people who suffer from depression are at higher risk for heart disease and other illnesses. And people under stress have been found to be more susceptible to colds and flu, and to have more severe symptoms after they fall ill.

Research in young adults has shown that the happier a subject is, the less likely they are to become ill, and the quicker they recover from illnesses. Positive mood states, emotion and satisfaction appear to be strongly linked with good physical health. On the corollary, those who feel guilty, anxious, lonely and depressed are more likely to exhibit undesirable health choices and present themselves as less physically healthy overall. The longer one lingers in a depressive, despondent state, the more likely it is for one to get sick. Without fail, those who maintain positive mind and disposition are more likely to live longer and far better than their more negative counterparts. 

If by thinking positively, we can improve our health, we must work to eliminate negativity from our thought patterns. If one can recognize and understand negative thoughts and influences in one’s life, one can take steps to eradicate them. Regardless of whether one is trying to combat an illness, recover from a trauma, or simply become a healthier person, all evidence suggests maintaining a positive mind is the essential component. 

-         N.GANESHAN

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Quotes of Gandhiji



An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.

You must be the change you want to see in the world. 


There is more to life than increasing its speed. 


When I despair, I remember that all through history the ways of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants, and murderers, and for a time they can seem invincible, but in the end they always fall. Think of it--always. 

You can chain me, you can torture me, you can even destroy this body, but you will never imprison my mind.

Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances.

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. 


The destructive Seven Blunders of the World that cause violence:
Wealth without work.
Pleasure without conscience.
Knowledge without character.
Commerce without morality.
Science without humanity.
Religion without sacrifice.
Politics without principle.

Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.


Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.


I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent.

Imitation is the sincerest flattery. 



You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.



- Mahathma Gandhi

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Some Wise Quotes on “MAN”





A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams. 
John Barrymore 

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy. 
Martin Luther King, Jr. 

A man can fail many times, but he isn't a failure until he begins to blame somebody else. 
John Burroughs 


A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be. 
Albert Einstein 

Every man dies. Not every man really lives. 
William Wallace 

A man always has two reasons for doing anything: a good reason and the real reason. 
J. P. Morgan 

A fool flatters himself, a wise man flatters the fool. 
Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton 

Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth. 
Oscar Wilde 

I don't measure a man's success by how high he climbs but how high he bounces when he hits bottom. 
George S. Patton 

A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them. 
John C. Maxwell


A wise man can learn more from a foolish question than a fool can learn from a wise answer. 
Bruce Lee 

Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn't matter to me. Going to bed at night saying we've done something wonderful, that's what matters to me. 
Steve Jobs 

A man who views the world the same at fifty as he did at twenty has wasted thirty years of his life. 
Muhammad Ali 

Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it. 
Malcolm X 

A smart man makes a mistake, learns from it, and never makes that mistake again. But a wise man finds a smart man and learns from him how to avoid the mistake altogether. 
Roy H. Williams 

Sunday, August 12, 2012

Secret of Self-esteem


Many of us have an inner critic within us who is constantly belittle ourselves with harsh judgments. It makes us to doubt ourselves and feel inadequate to the circumstances of life. It is the enemy within. It is good to know our mistakes. But it is a grave mistake to exaggerate our mistakes and bury our self confidence. 

Recently I read the following passage of Dr.Maxwell Maltz, the famous author of Psycho-Cybernetics. It gives us a very good prescription to achieve self-esteem. Please read the beautiful message and follow the advice.

- N.Ganeshan


Secret of Self-esteem

Stop carrying around a mental picture of yourself as a person less capable than others, by making unfair apples-to-oranges comparisons. Celebrate your victories small or large, recognize and build on your strengths, and continually remind yourself that you are not your mistakes.

The word "esteem" literally means to appreciate the worth of. Why do men stand in awe of the stars, the moon, the immensity of the sea, the beauty of a flower or a sunset, and at the same time downgrade themselves? Did not the same Creator make us? Is not the human being the most marvelous creation of all? This appreciation of your own worth is not egotism unless you assume that you made yourself and should take some of the credit. Do not downgrade the product merely because you haven't used it correctly. Don't childishly blame the product for your own errors like the schoolboy who said, "This typewriter can't spell."

But the biggest secret of self-esteem is this: Begin to appreciate other people more; show respect for any human being merely because he or she is a child of God and therefore a thing of value. Stop and think when you're dealing with people. You're dealing with unique, individual creations of the Creator of all. Practice treating other, people as if they had value, and, surprisingly, your own self-esteem will go up. For real self-esteem is not derived from the great things you've done, the things you own, the mark you've made, but from an appreciation of yourself for what you are-a child of God. When you Come to this realization, however, you must necessarily conclude that all other people are to be appreciated for the same reason.

- Maxwell Maltz

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

ASK YOU SHALL RECEIVE



ASK YOU SHALL RECEIVE

"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. (Matthew 7:7)” is not an empty phrase. It is really meaningful. According to the Law of Attraction, the universe is unlimited. There can never be a lack of anything that we want if we follow the Law of Attraction. There is more than enough to go around and it is unnecessary to take what others may have. The Law of Attraction dictates that everything is possible.

There are two reasons for our not getting what we have asked for. First is we are vague in our desires. Most of us only have a vague and misty concept of what we want. If we can't get clear about what we want and why we want it, then we are like a person in a restaurant who keeps waffling between menu items, never able to come to a decision. Until we place an order, the waiter can't bring us our food. Until we get clarity and until our desire is intense nothing will come out of it.

The second is, we don’t act upon it. If the desire is intense we will definitely do necessary things to make the desire fulfilled. If we don’t act we will not receive. It is simple. If we have no real intention of acting, then why bother asking? Acting doesn't always mean some huge undertaking. Usually it's just a small incremental change.  It is listening to the little gut feelings, the still small voice that tells us to do this or that. If we keep on acting, we will surely receive the blessings we seek.  

The idea is nicely explained in the little poem by Jessie B. Rittenhouse -


”I bargained with Life for a penny,
And Life would pay no more,
However I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store;

For Life is a just employer,
And gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.

I worked for a menial’s hire,
Only to learn, dismayed
That any wage I had asked of Life,
Life would have willingly paid.”

- N.Ganeshan